During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the
right person?" the author then noticed that there was a large man
sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this
question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your
mind replied the author. Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love
with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like
their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a
completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO
anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the
expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing
nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and
spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being
together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY
relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if
they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and
your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The
symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice
a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love
and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you
and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And
as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin
to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships
breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right
person;
it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside
for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a
hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the
answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies
within it.. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone
else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same
situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The
key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person;
it's learning to love the person you found.


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have
to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy.
And most importantly, it demands WISDOM.. You have to know WHAT TO DO to
make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are
specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as
there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also
laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are
predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always:

"God determines who walks into your life.

It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay,

and who you refuse to let GO!!! "

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Comment by Sunil Lalvani on June 13, 2010 at 9:37pm
This is fantastic. I have been working on this subject - RELATIONSHIPS. I have written some articles, though they are not complete as yet but this has really helped me to get the right perspective - great sharing !
Comment by anupam on November 6, 2009 at 7:46am
How True ! & how uncommon !
Comment by Masoom Hamza on October 19, 2009 at 11:45am
Most certainly ....I refuse to let YOU GO!!!! Ha Ha......
airlines are complaining......you are not at flying enough? Airports and me are waiting.....
Comment by chandini botre on September 12, 2009 at 9:28am
Today again I went through this article, as I like going through all articles from time to time to get the messages; just like u do in meditations, and I felt that if ever a thought comes that, are u with the right partner on account of displeasures or disharmony...possibly one can go back to the time when the same relationship was very good and which allowed you to continue the relationship. Its just like keeping up with higher vibrations in any field. Its really important to understand as we ourselves are not whole, how can we expect others to be so...I remember having attended Bhagwan Kalki's diksha program and what bhagwan had to say for bringing best in any relationship, its always YOU who has to contribute the most. Even when something goes wrong we can go back to that situation and realize what caused the dispute and if that could have been handled other way. Relationship is like being content...if we have not achieved the bliss of contentment, nothing can ever satisfy us. Neeta thanks again.
Comment by Umme Salma K on September 10, 2009 at 2:44pm
hi,
I loved it...shared it with close friends. keep posting.
Comment by Rati patel on August 29, 2009 at 9:58am
nice article would like 2 know about laws of relationship.
Comment by reena sharma on August 29, 2009 at 12:07am
neat...:)
Comment by Pearl Burzin Unwalla on August 27, 2009 at 5:57pm
wow.........
Comment by amit on August 26, 2009 at 11:29pm
beautiful article.shared at guru too
luv
Comment by Mahesh on August 26, 2009 at 10:34am
Its nice article, Neeta. Thanks.
But i would like to read from you about the laws of relationships in next article. That would make this article more complete

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